Monica

Committing to choices

Elle

I don't have a job.

bb

Caught in between a 9 to 5 job.
Caught in buerocratic structures.
Caught in a feeling of i want to be free and on my own and still wishing to find safety.
Caught in a big city.
Caught in between too many people and noises.

dave

Managing my feelings of sadness and isolation and trying to re-direct them into creative endeavors.

Nick

Every morning when I'm showering, and some nights when I'm not, I like to use the hairdryer in my washroom to warm my body. There's something comforting about the drone and the consistent stream of warm air. But it's really hot now in the city, and the hairdryer vents are clogged with dust, and water escapes the shower every now and again, which leads me to my life's essential dilemma: I won't die at the hands of my hairdryer, will I? Like smoking, why am I doing this if I know it could kill me?

jenn

Will I start making 'mom art' now that I'm a mom?

will my credit card still be at the hardware store when I go back to get it? If anyone has used it what have they bought?

will i get a chance to meet you while in Toronto. Should I invite you to come watch a quick dance rehearsal?

Adam

Can my life open wide enough to contain the person I hope I'm becoming? I just watched Howl with James Franco as Allen Ginsburg and was really hit with this monologue:

In San Francisco I had a year of psychotherapy with a Dr. Hicks. I was blocked cause I couldnt' write. I was still trying to act normal. I was afraid I was crazy. I was sure that I was supposed to be heterosexual and that something was wrong with me. And Dr. Hicks kept saying, What do you want to do? What is your heart's desire? So finally I said, Oh, what I'd really like to do is to just quit all this and get a small room with Peter and devote myself to my writing, contemplation and, fucking and smoking pot and doing whatever I want. And he said, Why don't you do it then? Well, I mean what will happen if I grow old and I have pee stains in my underwear and I'm living in some furnished room and, nobody loves me and I'm white haired and I have no money and bread crumbs are falling on the floor and he said, Ah, don't worry about that. You're very charming and lovable and people will always love you.
What a relief to hear that! I very soon realized that it was all a fear trap. Just Illusory.

I'm looking at how to deal with fear when I get these peeks of what is possible and what is worth risking.

Lizette

I think my dilemma currently is the most occuring dilemma for any 33y old woman without any children yet: Should I prospone my child-wish 2-3 years more, because of my career and growth of a stable relationship, or should I not wait anymore; career, working on a relationship and children can go together (don't wait for the ideal situation and become an old mum or no mum at all or have chances of complication for the child...)
Thanks! Lizette

Sarah

How to get out of this town and go far away to where I don't know anyone / don't speak the language, so I can see where my mind / writing goes.

Michelle

Should I go back to San Francisco to revisit a man I fell in love with?

Kristine

I've recently started a photo project in which the subject is my naked bod covered with sand, rocks and plastic sea creatures. Oh, I'm also laying in the tub (but I may take some in the ocean). So, it's me as an island. Anyways, I put some of these up on my website and am now afraid of who might see them (but there are people who I DO want to see them). I mean, my family would be horrified (but I don't even think they have ever checked out my site). Tell me, how will they react?

David

My parent's announced their plan to divorce this week. I feel as though it's affected me more than is acceptable for a 25-year-old male.

Rosemary

Finding true love.

Sonia

Dear Miranda,
my essential dilemma is love related. I could ask you if love exists - I always go through a sceptic phase when I break up - or if there's any meaning to this falling in and out of love, endlessly, like a routine we can't avoid, but I can't help asking you what's gonna be of my love life and if I'm gonna date this guy I'm falling for.

Grant

Questioning position in long term relationship (7 years), starting English Lit degree in October. On top of full time job, part time running a magazine, assorted writing jobs, partner and the rest of life, wondering if I'll be able to cope and what will happen to my relationship?

Colin

After ten years in NYC, I'm 35 and unemployed and stuck living with my parents in Indiana.

Kris

My boyfriend and i were together in a long distance relationship for over a yr when i persuaded him to move in with me. After 3 minths of fighting and him not feeling able to adjust to a new city (michigan to cali) he decided to leave even though i offered him space here to figure things out. A week after leaving he begged for my forgiveness and now I can't seem to find peace with moving on from my relationship. My boyfriend left me and is stringing me along until he saves enough to come back. I want to accept that were not right for each other, but I still love him so it's damn near impossible. I want to be able to go a day without thinking of him and focus completely on my writing. He wants me to wait for him but I think it's clear, after he decided to move out, that were not good for each other. What do I do? How do I get over him??

Marina

I would like to know why people end their relationships simply abandoning everything. Was it real before it came to its end?

Marilyn

I have a one-year old grand baby that
is like a soul connection. She's my muse
(13 months old). I write songs and she
lets me know if they're good, or if they
suck, depending upon her reaction. And she's right because she's so present and plugged in. It's
a love fest, except that my daughter is
so undone by this love, she's hardened
and very mean to me most of the time.
I do anything she needs, but she hates
that she needs me, and worse, that the
baby and I have this easy, deep connection.. I take the crap for fear
she won't let me care for the baby.

Fran

The essential dilemma in my life right now is the idea that there is no dilemma: that any perceived problems are only in my mind, and that I have the potential to do whatever I want with my life. In short, the dilemma is being overwhelmed by choice and the potential of success. Suggestions?