Dr. Ruth Westheimer

Dr. Ruth Westheimer is a psychosexual therapist who helped to pioneer the field of media psychology with her radio program, Sexually Speaking. It began in September of 1980 as a fifteen minute, taped show that aired Sundays after midnight on WYNY-FM (NBC) in New York. One year later it became a live, one-hour show airing at 10 PM on which Dr. Ruth, as she became known, answered call-in questions from listeners.  Soon it became part of a communications network to distribute Dr. Westheimer's expertise which has included television, books, newspapers, games, home video, computer software and her own website, www.drruth.com.

Born in Germany in 1928, Dr. Westheimer was sent to a children’s home in Switzerland at the age of ten which became an orphanage for most of the German Jewish students who had been sent there to escape the Holocaust.  At 17 she went to Israel where she fought for that country's independence as a member of the Haganah, the Jewish freedom fighters.  She then moved to Paris where she studied at the Sorbonne and taught kindergarten.  She immigrated to the U.S. in 1956 where she obtained her Masters Degree in Sociology from the Graduate Faculty of the New School of Social Research.  In 1970, she received  a Doctorate of Education (Ed.D.) in the Interdisciplinary Study of the Family from Columbia University Teacher's College.

She worked for Planned Parenthood for a time and it was that experience that prompted her to further her education in human sexuality by studying under Dr. Helen Singer Kaplan at New York Hospital-Cornell University Medical Center.  She later participated in the program for five years as an Adjunct Associate Professor.  She has also taught at Lehman College, Brooklyn College, Adelphi University, Columbia University and West Point.

Currently Dr. Westheimer is an Adjunct  Professor at N.Y.U. and an Associate Fellow of Calhoun College at Yale University, where she will once again be teaching a course on the American family in the spring of 2007, and a Fellow of Butler College at Princeton University, where in the spring of 2007 she will once again be teaching a course on the Jewish family. She is a fellow of the New York Academy of Medicine and in addition to having her own private practice, she frequently lectures at universities across the country and has twice been named "College Lecturer of the Year."

During her early days as a college professor, Dr. Westheimer never envisaged that one day she would be making such wide use of the mass media to help spread what she has labeled "sexual literacy."  However, with her unique style, she has been able to communicate effectively through almost every avenue available.  In addition to radio, her television career has spanned both broadcast and cable.  Her first TV show aired locally in New York but she soon went national on Lifetime's The Dr. Ruth ShowAsk Dr. Ruth was syndicated both nationally and internationally by King Features Entertainment so that she became a regular in such places as London and Hong Kong as well as America. The All New Dr. Ruth Show brought her back to Lifetime and with What's Up, Dr. Ruth she helped broaden Lifetime's appeal with teens. You're On The Air with Dr. Ruth brought her back to the format she began with on television with both guests and live phone calls.  In the Fall of 1992 she reached out to adult Americans with Never Too Late which was broadcast on Nostalgia Television. Lately she has been reaching the younger set teaching puppets how to read long words on the PBS series, Between The Lions.

She has her own website, www.drruth.com. Her first video was entitled Terrific Sex and she later did two more for Playboy. In the Fall of 1993 Dr. Ruth had her own weekly series in Hebrew on Israeli television as well as a five minute weekly "strip" on Great Britain's This Morning program.  Her other foreign ventures have included spots on Radio Television Luxembourg, German Swiss Television and France's TF-1.    In 1991, she donned the title of Executive Producer for a documentary on Ethiopian Jews titled "Surviving Salvation." Filmed by the Academy Award winning Malcolm Clarke, the documentary aired nationally on PBS.  Her second documentary, entitled  “No Missing Link”, also received national airing on PBS and was about how grandparents have transmitted values, particularly religious values during the 70 years of communism in Russia. Her latest documentary, “The Olive and The Tree: The Secret Strength of the Druze” was completed in February of 2006, aired on WNET-Ch 13, and will be airing on other PBS stations, and an accompanying book will be published in early 2007. She also has material for another based on a visit to the Trobriand Islands in Papua New Guinea.

In print she circles the globe with her column, Ask Dr. Ruth, syndicated by King Features.  She is the author of thirty-one books, and counting. (See list.)   There were also Dr. Ruth's Good Sex Night-to-Night Calendar(1993 & 1994) and a board game, Dr. Ruth's Game of Good Sex, which Victory Games released in a version for computers.  Unrelated to her vocation was her part in the French film by Daniel Vigne, One Woman or Two, which starred Gerard Depardieu and Sigourney Weaver and in which she played the part of a wealthy philanthropist.  She also starred in a pilot for ABC titled Dr. Ruth's House and appeared in an episode of Quantum Leap.  She’s been featured on TV commercials for Clairol Herbal Essence, Honda, Pepsi, Entenmann’s and many other products. She also narrated two children's stories, Little Red Riding Hood and Goldilocks and the Three Bears, on a CD entitled Timeless Tales And Music Of Our Time, a project by An die Musik (Oboe, String trio & Piano) for Newport Classics records which received a Grammy nomination (2002).

The National Mother's Day Committee has honored Dr. Ruth as "Mother Of The Year" and she received a Liberty Medal from the City of New York.  She has been nominated for an Ace Award by the cable industry on five occasions and her program, The All New Dr. Ruth Show won an Ace Award in 1988 for excellence in cable television.  What's Up, Dr. Ruth was awarded the Gold Medal from the International Film and TV Festival for excellence in educational television.  People Magazine included her in their list of the Most Intriguing People of the Century.  In May of 2000 she  received an Honorary Doctorate from Hebrew Union College - Institute of Religion for her work in Human Sexuality and her commitment to the Jewish People, Israel and Religion. In June, 2001 she received an Honorary Doctorate in Humane Letters from CUNY's Lehman College. In 2002 she received the Ellis Island Medal of Honor and the International Society for Sexual and Impotence Research 20th Anniversary Award and the Leo Baeck Medal. In June, 2004 she was awarded an honorary doctorate from Trinity College in Hartford, CT. In June of 2006, Columbia University’s Teacher’s College awarded her their Medal For Distinguished Services. She is a board member of the YMHA of Washington Heights, where she served as president for eleven years.  Dr. Westheimer has two children, four grandchildren and resides in New York City.


Dr. Ruth’s Sex After 50:Revving Up the Romance, Passion & Excitement with Pierre A. Lehu (Quill Driver Books, Spring 2005)

Dr. Ruth’s Guide to Talking About Herpes with Pierre A. Lehu (Grove Press, Fall 2004)

52 Lessons on Communicating Love with Pierre A. Lehu (Blue Mountain Arts, Fall 2004)

Dr. Ruth’s 30 Days to Sexual Intimacy with Pierre A. Lehu (Sweetwater Press, Spring 2004)

Musically Speaking: A Life Through Song (University of Pennsylvania Press, Fall 2003)

Conquering the Rapids of Life: Making the Most of Midlife Opportunities with Pierre A. Lehu (Taylor Trade, Fall 2003)

The Lover’s Companion: Art and Poetry of Desire edited by Charles Sullivan (Abrams, 2003)

Grandma On Wheels with Pierre A. Lehu (Golden Books, Fall 2001)

Who Am I? Where Did I Come From with Pierre A. Lehu (Golden Books, Fall 2001)

Power: The Ultimate Aphrodisiac with Dr. Steven Kaplan (Madison Books, Fall 2001)

Human Sexuality: A Psychosocial Perspective with Dr. Sandy Lopater (Lipincott, Williams & Wilkins, Fall 2001, college textbook)

Rekindling Romance For Dummies with Pierre A. Lehu (Hungry Minds, 2001)

Dr. Ruth’s Guide to College Life with Pierre A. Lehu (Madison Books, 2000)

Dr. Ruth’s Pregnancy Guide For Couples with Amos Grunebaum, MD (Routledge, 1999)

Grandparenthood with Dr. Steven Kaplan (Routledge, 1998)

Dr. Ruth Talks About Grandparents: Advice For Kids On Making The Most of a Special Relationship with Pierre A. Lehu (Farrar, Strauss & Giroux, 1997, paperback, Madison Books 2001)

The Value  Of Family with Ben Yagoda (Warner Books, 1996)

Heavenly Sex: Sex in the Jewish Tradition with Jonathan Mark (NYU Press, 1995; paperback, Continuum 1996)

Sex For Dummies (IDG Books, 1995) (has been translated into 23 languages.)

Dr. Ruth’s Encyclopedia of Sex (Continuum, 1994)

Dr. Ruth Talks to Kids ( Macmillan, 1993; Aladin Paperbacks, 1998)

The Art of Arousal (Abbeville, 1993; paperback, Madison Books, 2000)

Dr. Ruth’s Guide to Safer Sex (Warner Books, 1992)

Surviving Salvation (NYU Press, 1992)

Dr. Ruth’s Guide to Sensuous and Erotic Pleasures  with Dr. Louis Lieberman (S.P.I. Books, 1991)

Sex and Morality: Who Is Teaching Our Sex Standards with Dr. Louis Lieberman (Harcourt Brace Jovanovich, 1988)

All In Lifetime (Warner Books, 1987)

Guide to Married Lovers (Warner Books, 1986)

First Love (Warner Books, 1985)

Dr. Ruth’s Guide to Good Sex (Warner Books, 1983)

Dr. Ruth Westheimer appears in the following:

A Documentary About Dr. Ruth Westheimer

Monday, November 11, 2019

The one and only Dr. Ruth Westheimer joins us to discuss her documentary “Ask Dr. Ruth.”


Why Dr. Ruth is Optimistic About Online Dating

Monday, June 11, 2018

Dr. Ruth K. Westheimer offers clear-headed advice for singles looking for committed relationships while navigating online dating. 

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Dr. Ruth and Romantic Expectations

Tuesday, January 09, 2018

Therapist and author Dr. Ruth Westheimer talks about her latest book "Stay or Go: Dr. Ruth’s Rules for Relationships."

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Dr. Ruth, From Sniper to Sex Therapist

Friday, September 04, 2015

Dr. Ruth is a famous sex therapist, but few people know she narrowly escaped death from the Holocaust, was raised in an orphanage in Switzerland, or that she was a sniper in Israel.

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Guest Picks: Dr. Ruth

Monday, June 08, 2015

The legendary sex therapist talked about her life, from narrowly escaping the Holocaust, to becoming a sniper during Israel's War of Independence. And go figure: she's a skier! 

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From Sniper to Sex Therapist: The Story of Dr. Ruth

Monday, June 08, 2015

Dr. Ruth is a famous sex therapist, but few people know she narrowly escaped death from the Holocaust, was raised in an orphanage in Switzerland, or that she was a sniper in Israel.

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Dr. Ruth: No Music During Sex, Please!

Sunday, August 01, 2010

The noted sex therapist Dr. Ruth Westheimer appears as Gilbert Kaplan’s guest on “Mad About Music.” But surprisingly, Dr. Ruth is against playing music during sex.

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