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Open Phones: Advice Roulette

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Another installment of our occasional open-phones segment Radio Advice Roulette - listeners asking each other for advice live on the radio. Here's how it works: If you need advice on anything, anything at all, call 212-433-9692 and we'll pair you with a fellow WNYC listener. The catch? Before you get to ask for advice from someone, you have to give advice to another caller.

Dan Needs Advice! The last Advice Roulette caller, Dan, is being sent to Germany by his company. He gets to choose between Berlin and Munich, but needs help deciding where to go. Post your advice to Dan below.

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Comments [39]

Lucy from Manhattan

It is a month and half since I was the first caller to "Advice Roulette" on Oct. 30. I needed help to design a brochure for TRIO Manhattan Chapter, a nonprofit group, of people who are awaiting an organ transplant, have had a transplant, or are caring for someone in that situation. It was a "wow" moment when the second caller, Susan, from Huntington said she knew someone who could help. We connected after the show and through her I met a professional designer in Brooklyn, Ann, who offered to help. Just today, Dec. 11, our newly minted and beautiful brochures arrived! What a wonderful, generous and talented laden city we live in. Thank you, Brian Lehrer, for making this happen. Special thanks to Ann and Susan.

Dec. 11 2013 02:43 PM
Chantal from NY / DC

BERLIN!!! No question!! Super gay friendly, very diverse and the culture in the city is unbelievable! Plus Berlin has the Berliner Philharmoniker, many great opera houses, and such wonderful underground jazz bars! (I also understand that the property is a good investment so buy if you can!)

Oct. 31 2013 12:02 AM

BERLIN......!! Berlin is a very gay friendly city.

Oct. 30 2013 10:18 PM
JerryGibbs from Washington, DC

MUNICH! And here's why: Berlin is a big city. That's it. The city is great and is nearly three times the size of Munich. The gay scene is bigger, just by relative terms alone. But go to Munich. More friendly, Bavarian culture over German. But here's the ringer: the location. In four hours you can be dining in the Alsace, Italy, Switzerland, Austria or Prague. The airport is better and will get you anywhere you want. The food is better. The beer is better. Munich is a city of excess and has more (albeit on a smaller scale) to offer than Berlin. The weather is better and the surrounding area offers SO MUCH more whether that is a day trip to Garmisch (any season), Ludwig's castles, historic Regensburg, Augsburg or Passau. Berlin is an island. My family is from Berlin and we lived in Munich. Munich is the better city. Let's put it this way, rents are much higher in Munich than Berlin. DEMAND is the answer. Like Toronto to Vancouver. People rather be in Vancouver. Hire prices. Follow the market. Do yourself a favor and go to Munich and visit Berlin if you want that. But day-to-day life is VASTLY superior in Munich than Berlin. Oh, and FC Bayern is also worth the move. Kings of Europe!

Oct. 30 2013 12:54 PM
Elias from Bowling Green

For Susan and Lucy, they can contact Taproot Foundation to receive a grant where a team of volunteers would would help non-profits with different projects including producing brochures and marketing plans. They are also looking for volunteers to work as pro-bono consultants.

Oct. 30 2013 12:09 PM
Katie Kennedy from Huntington

Munich is gorgeous countryside; Berlin, a Metropolitan City. I haven't been in Berlin in a long time, but the last time I was there they were building like crazy. Now it's a thriving city. For city people, Berlin definitely. You can always weekend in Munich. Next trip to Germany for me will be Berlin.

Oct. 30 2013 12:03 PM
Peter from New Yorker in exile (MA)

For a gay couple, Berlin is the # 1 choice - it is also the only city and state in the Federal Republic that has an openly gay Governing Mayor (Regierender Buergermeister). For gays in Germany, Berlin is like SF and NYC combined; Munich is very pretty, expensive and chic, but nowhere near as cosmopolitan or open. However, if mountain climbing is a tope priority, Munich is the way to go - the Alps are very close-by.

Oct. 30 2013 12:03 PM
Jane from Manhattan

BERLIN!!!! It's a New Yorker's town: multicultural, current, restaurants, bars, opera, museums. Great neighborhoods. Shopping. Great transportation -smaller than NYC - you can walk, use trains or buses or bike- car for out of town use (or rent one from Sixt rental company when you need to go somewhere.)
Munich is a tourist town - charming especially at Christmas or Oktoberfest - but it's not even in the contest for a place to live!!!
As retired international airline crew, I've been to Berlin dozens of times - the last time staying with friends in the outskirts - get a place in the one of the inner area of Berlin or a quieter middle ring area - many choices- and enjoy your new job and your new town and the many friends you will meet. Berlin is now!

Oct. 30 2013 12:02 PM
Kent from Hells Kitchen

Dan saying his husband's company was moving them was a key phrase in my advice. Munich is not nearly as accepting and open as Berlin. I don't want to equate all of Bavaria with narrow-mindeedness because taht would bve unfair.Not-for -nothing Munich is where Hitler began his putsch and near by Nuernbrg was the 'cultural capitol" of the reicht. Berlin had an open broad view of LGBT community for at least 80 years.You can always take a train down to Munich or a quick flight to visit the bier gartens .

Oct. 30 2013 11:56 AM
Sarah from Brooklyn

Gay couple? No competition - Berlin.

Oct. 30 2013 11:53 AM
Daniela from NYC

Berlin, without a doubt. One of the greatest cities, a cool living open air museum where modern meets old with lots of culture and art and some pretty great food too.

Oct. 30 2013 11:50 AM
Andrea from Philadelphia

Dan--I have a good friend who lives in Berlin and loooves it. It is certainly closer to NYC in terms of being cosmopolitan, culturally rich. And my friend is always raving about how much cheaper it is, that she can afford to do things there--like go to the opera--that she couldn't afford in NYC.

To the mother of the chubby kid. Two pieces of advice: the next time he mentions being teased, ask him how it makes him feel in an attempt to find out if it makes him want to change or if it's not that big a deal to him. The second, following up on the guy who responded on the radio, is to work physical activity into his day wherever possible--find something he likes to do: it could be taking a class or joining a team or just walking/hiking, dancing, bowling, biking. Make sure it's fun for him and then he'll just do it--he doesn't need to think about it as a way to lose weight.

Oct. 30 2013 11:50 AM
Theresa from New Rochelle

You can't go wrong with either Munich or Berlin, but they are very different.

Munich advertises itself as the "Millionenstadt mit Herz" (City of a million with a heart). Bavarians are known for their friendliness, love of traditional culture and with that comes a certain conservativeness. When we lived there (late 80's) the city closed up early. But it's got great museums, beer gardens, easy access to wonderful hiking and skiing, it's an overnight train to Italy and other countries are also easy to get to. If you like doing outdoor things on weekends, Munich hands down.

Berlin is more cosmopolitan and urban. Also has great museums and almost certainly has better nightlife.

Oct. 30 2013 11:47 AM
Jim B from Queens

Leipzig Instead of Berlin

http://nymag.com/travel/2013/winter/leipzig/

Oct. 30 2013 11:45 AM
Theresa from New Rochelle

You can't go wrong with either Munich or Berlin, but they are very different.

Munich advertises itself as the "Millionenstadt mit Herz" (City of a million with a heart). Bavarians are known for their friendliness, love of traditional culture and with that comes a certain conservativeness. When we lived there (late 80's) the city closed up early. But it's got great museums, beer gardens, easy access to wonderful hiking and skiing, it's an overnight train to Italy and other countries are also easy to get to. If you like doing outdoor things on weekends, Munich hands down.

Berlin is more cosmopolitan and urban. Also has great museums and almost certainly has better nightlife.

Oct. 30 2013 11:45 AM
Kent from Hell's Kitchen

Dan: I lived in Germany for 8 years, 3 just south of Muenchen. Berlin is a world-class unique great city that is gay-friendly. Munich is the state capitol of the most conservative state in Germany. Berlin has amazing culinary,art scene , music, nightlife, transportation . It is like living in NYC but with cheap rents. Munich has bratwuerst and beer which you can they sell in Berlin. It isnt even a coin toss. BERLIN!

Oct. 30 2013 11:44 AM
Lucas from DC

BERLIN

Oct. 30 2013 11:44 AM
Roland from Glen Head

Munich - Why? If you like outdoor Munich is much better location. You are "close" to the alps. Easy to reach Switzerland and Austria. The hills around Munich are great.
If you are a CITY person. Go to Berlin.
I am Swiss and I live in NY.

Oct. 30 2013 11:44 AM
Amy from Manhattan

If Angel is reading, I agree that you should run again. In addition to the advice you got on the air, you can apply what you learned the 1st time to make the process smoother the next time.

Of course, if your political positions are the opposite of mine, then I don't think you should run!

Oct. 30 2013 11:44 AM
Robert from NYC

You actually compared Berlin to Brooklyn?!!! Uh caller this guy misses the feel of Berlin if he thinks it's like Brooklyn. Berlin is like Berlin, man, genuch!!!

Oct. 30 2013 11:44 AM
Helen from Montclair, NJ

Dan, look at which city is most accepting of you and your husband and your family. I would think it's Berlin.

Also, for the 8 year old boy who is a bit over weight. I have two that at that age we started to look at SERVING SIZE for snacks and only taking the serving size for a treat. This allows the kids to have the treat but to be mindful about how much is enough. It really works. Also, increase the exercise as much as possible. Sign up for lots of activities, even free ones, this will keep hands out of the cookie jar.

Oct. 30 2013 11:43 AM
Mariya from Queens

Dan, i've been to both cities - they're totally different. But Munich is amazing! If i would have to chose - Munich is my destination!!! Its more beautiful and charming. Good luck!;)

Oct. 30 2013 11:43 AM
JaeLynn from NYC

BERLIN. BERLIN. BERLIN. I lived in Berlin. I spend time in Munich. Berlin is open and accepting, and has a large gay community. I love every aspect of Berlin. BERLIN. BERLIN. BERLIN. Beautiful parks. Delicious food and drink. Email me if you want specifics. No contest...BERLIN!!

Oct. 30 2013 11:42 AM
Yvonne from NYC

Berlin!

Oct. 30 2013 11:42 AM
John Taylor from NYC

Berlin without a doubt. Munich was the heart of fascism and still reeks of it.

Oct. 30 2013 11:42 AM
Sonya Friedman

Dan, go to Berlin. Munich is conservative, uptight, majorly beer-drinking.
Berlin is exceptionally open, young, interesting.
best, Sonya

Oct. 30 2013 11:42 AM
anna hyams from NYC

Berlin.

Oct. 30 2013 11:42 AM
Reid from BK, NY

Move to BERLIN! Munich is beautiful and friendly, but it is not the cultural and cosmopolitan city that Berlin is. In conclusion...MOVE TO BERLIN!!

Oct. 30 2013 11:42 AM

Dan, if you like NYC you will love Berlin. I vote Berlin

Oct. 30 2013 11:42 AM
Robert from NYC

BERLIN without question over Munich. Munich is a lovely and rich in culture city but Berlin is very exciting and much more cosmopolitan to Munich's which is more provincial. But whichever you choose, do visit the other if you're there for any length of time.

Oct. 30 2013 11:41 AM
Anna Ogier-Bloomer from Brooklyn

Berlin, hands down! More arts and culture.

Oct. 30 2013 11:40 AM
DAN from Manhattan

Have been to Berlin 4 times in the last 20 years. Was in Munich 3 times in the same time.

Berlin is much, much cheaper, larger and more liberal. Munich is more beautiful, but there's a million times more cool things going on in Berlin. It's a no brainer if it were me...

Oct. 30 2013 11:40 AM
Ann from Newburgh, Ny

Berlin! I've had lots of friends live there and they all loved it.

Oct. 30 2013 11:40 AM
Office-Cube Dweller from NYC

Berlin.

Oct. 30 2013 11:40 AM
EStern from Port Washington NY

BERLIN.

that was easy.

Oct. 30 2013 11:40 AM
ursonate from boston

Berlin! You can always visit Munich.

Oct. 30 2013 11:40 AM
jibik from 11205

berlin, definitely berlin.

Oct. 30 2013 11:39 AM

Dan: go to Berlin. No hesitation - Munich sucks, Berlin is the BEST!!

Oct. 30 2013 11:39 AM
Robert from NYC

That kid went from "big boned" to "overweight" to obese in one call.

Oct. 30 2013 11:39 AM

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