Bullies don't exist just on the playground. They also exist in the workplace as well.
Unfortunately, whether you've got a colleague harassing you or you're managing an insolent employee, working with a bully can be detrimental to you personally and to the office as a whole.
So what's the best way to deal with your local office thug?
"I'm not responsible if somebody chooses to be a bully, but I am responsible for my own self." That's advice from Michele Woodward, an executive coach and the host of a recent Harvard Business Review webinar, "Bullies, Jerks, and Other Annoyances: Identify and Defuse the Difficult People at Work."
Woodward explained to Money Talking host Charlie Herman that "if I understand myself and I understand why this is triggering me, then that's how I know how to go forward."
When forced to confront the workplace brute, Woodward suggests asking yourself three questions to help find some inner calm:
- Do I know myself well? Am I an overly sensitive person? The answer to this question could indicate that your reaction is, in fact, just a reflection of who you are.
- Can I de-personalize this? If you can take yourself and your own emotions out of the equation, then you might find that the situation is about the other person and not you.
- Could this be the environment we're in? You may be working in a workplace where this behavior is accepted, possibly even encouraged. If that's the case, then you may want to re-evaluate if that is the right office for you.
[Click on "Listen" to hear more of Woodward's recommendations for how to deal with the office bully in ways that don't escalate the situation.]
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