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How Employment Can Change the Domestic Abuse Cycle

Wednesday, July 09, 2014

One in 4 women will experience domestic violence during her lifetime. This is a stock photo representing domestic violence. (OtnaYdur/Shutterstock)

Domestic violence is often enabled by economic captivity. Dr Ludy GreenPresident and Founder of Second Chance Employment Services and author of Ending Domestic Violence Captivity: A Guide to Economic Freedom(Volcano Press, 2014), discusses her work to break the cycle by giving victims of domestic violence training, employment opportunities, and more. The number Dr Green read on air, for help, is 888-331-7451. There are links to resources below as well.

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Dr. Ludy Green

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Comments [7]

Ken from Long Island, NY

Why is the story always about women?

My wife decided to stop working after being laid off many times in from 1996-2002
Even though the children were all in school after she lost her job in 1992, she was depressed and decided not to work till 2004. She again lost her job and stopped working in 2007. Then she decided to go back to school, where she is still now! As she once said to a therapist, she would love to be a student forever. Meanwhile this 55 year old decided to go to law school but could not get in because of bad grades. What did she do? She found a on-line law school.

Who is paying the bills? Well I decided to become a teacher back in the 90s after getting out of the military and realized she had issues. I was not getting paid well, so I begged her to go back to work, she refused. What did I do? For our 3 children's sake I worked after school, summers, whenever, to get more $$ Because I did not want to break up the home and destroy the kids I did everything. As she refused I was (?) forced to work to pay the bills.
QUESTION! WAS I ABUSED? Or did I abuse her as I had to put her on allowances etc. because up until recently I spent every nickel I had on food, gas, etc!!! WHAT DO YOU FOLKS HAVE TO SAY?

Jul. 09 2014 12:20 PM
Ken

Why is the story always about women?

My wife decided to stop working after being laid off several times in 2002;
Even though the children were all in school, she was depressed and decided not to work till 2004. She again lost her job and stopped working in 2007.
Then she decided to go back to school, where she is still now! As she once said to a therapist, she would love to be a student forever. Meanwhile this 55 year old decided to go to law school but could not get in because of bad grades. What did she do? She found a on-line law school.

Who is paying the bills? Well I decided to become a teacher back in the 90s after getting out of the military and realized she had issues. I was not getting paid well, so I begged her to go back to work, she refused. What did I do? For our 3 childrens sake I worked after school, summers, whenever, to get more $$ Because I did not want to break up the home and destroy the kids I did everything. As she refused I was (?) forced to work to pay the bills.
QUESTION! WAS I ABUSED? Or did I abuse her as I had to put her on allowances etc. because up until recently I spent every nickel I had on food, gas, etc!!! WHAT DO YOU FOLKS HAVE TO SAY?

Jul. 09 2014 12:18 PM
Mimika from NJ

I feel bad when I hear domestic abuse cases, but don't ever understand why those women decide to have kids. Why would you want to have a kid growing up in this kind of environment?

Jul. 09 2014 10:47 AM
Jennifer from Bronx

For the woman whose daughter is being abused by the dad--contact the Brooklyn Family Justice Center and Sanctuary for families. She needs legal representation from an attorney who understands the dynamics of DV and the overlap with child abuse and child sex abuse. Also, contact the Battered Women's Justice project at www.bwjp.org or the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges at www.ncjfcj.org. These are great resources for these issues.

Jul. 09 2014 10:47 AM
Jane Doe from Harlem

Good topic, but your guest is confused on many things.

Jul. 09 2014 10:47 AM
Amy from Manhattan

The 1st caller said she found the shelter/services she used by coincidence. I hope it's easier for women who need them to find these places now than it used to be...I'm guessing the Internet helps a lot, but I hope sources of support are doing better outreach now.

Jul. 09 2014 10:45 AM
Tara from Queens

I was 21 years old when I broke up with my boyfriend after 2 years. I was working at a deadend retail job and wanted to go to secretary school to enter the business world. I knew he would put up such a fuss about me going to school and be away from him (going to school and working part time) that I knew I had to get out of the relationship. He was slowly over time very controlling of my time and knew where I was at all times (this was before cel phones too). He had also hit me for the first time shortly before this and I was very scared it would get worse.
I did not come from an abusive family, but I did have self esteem issues as a rape surviror when I was 17.

Jul. 09 2014 10:45 AM

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