The All-Or-Nothing Marriage

Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Dr. Eli J Finkel, professor of psychology and professor of management and organizations at Northwestern University discusses his piece in The New York Times which argues marriage today isn't better or worse than ever before - it's both. He also explains the widening gap between marriages that succeed and marriages that fail.


Dr. Eli J Finkel

Comments [9]

Dave Forslund from Wilton, CT

The curtness of the host aside, the content of the show was rewarding to many and helpful in understanding some of the many small mysteries that can make a marriage work or not. Most of Brian's shows are informative, but this one went beyond being just informative and could lead to new understanding and making a difference in someone's own life. A radio show can't get more rewarding than that!
Sorry for my delay in commenting!

Feb. 22 2014 09:51 AM
JJ from ray ray from mars

Hi Anna,
stop taking calls from the audience and let's hear what the expert has to say

Feb. 19 2014 02:29 PM
foodaggro from Brooklyn

... and I was about to pledge $1,000 to WNYC. But not after that display of inhumanity! It's all your fault, guest host!

Feb. 19 2014 11:48 AM
foodaggro from Brooklyn

Anna Sale, you are one seriously COLDHEARTED guest host for cutting off a weeping woman with Parkinson's. Shame on you.

Feb. 19 2014 11:43 AM

HOST JUST CUT OFF PERSON trying to say she has Parkinsons-geez. BL would've been patient and given her a second or two to finish her sentence. Was that necessary?

Feb. 19 2014 11:39 AM
MichaelB from Morningside Heights

Also, the loss of the extended family living in proximity. In the past, pressures were diffused and help was available for so many life issues and pressures.

I.e., a support network for the couple.

Feb. 19 2014 11:33 AM
MichaelB from Morningside Heights

I believe one of the things that has been lost without us realizing it is the question of what each expects of the other as a MAN and as a WOMAN. What is the difference of a husband and a wife? Are they interchangeable?

I think we just take those "potential" differences for granted but don't give it any real thought.

Also, related to the above, in our world of today, men have far fewer avenues to express masculinity.

Feb. 19 2014 11:28 AM
carolita from nyc

Yes, well, couples that are too cheap and emotionally lazy to get a divorce also stay together longer. I know some who have stayed together forever for those reasons. Whose children begged them to get divorced, and who will never get married as a result of watching a miserable marriage all their lives.

Feb. 19 2014 10:35 AM
Ed from Larchmont

It's not often that one talks about a real marriage these days: the mutual commitment of a man and woman to each other, exclusively, for life, with an openness to children. It's very beautiful.

One interesting fact is that couples that use NFP, because of better communication and working together, have a very low divorce rate, around 2-3%. That's worth investigating.

Feb. 19 2014 09:34 AM

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