Real-Life Stories of Reproductive Choice

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Reproductive choice is one of the most complex, personal, and political issues of modern-day America. A recent essay collection, Choice, explores what it’s like to have a baby, use a sperm bank, get an abortion, be a surrogate mother, and much more. Karin Bender and Nina de Gramont are the editors; Kimi Faxon Hemingway is a contributor.


Karin Bender, Nina de Gramont and Kimi Faxon Hemingway

Comments [8]

george d from white plains, ny

This is not about me personally.
The "depositor" cannot terminate a pregnancy without committing a felony.
Just listen to these stories, it is an incredibly painful question. I don't have answers. I'm seeking to find some common understanding, some feeling of mutual interest, some alternative to "you vs. me". I hope to live long enough to witness some noticeable spiritual evolution between women and men.
Please don't take it personally.

PS: whoever created it, how about we all try to improve it? My personal belief is summed up in Victor Hugo's foreword to Les Miserables. Things haven't changed much, socially, in 200 years.

Aug. 13 2008 01:52 PM

Are the stories of women who decide to be childless not based on infertility included in this book? That is a choice not simply dictated by infertility, career or a dislike for children. This may be hard to believe but that decision has its consequences in one's life as well, good and bad.

Aug. 13 2008 01:49 PM
areukiddinme? from NYC

poor you.

the fact that you refer to a "deposit" speaks volumes.

what do you think the ratio of "mind changing "is between depoistor and depository?

we all know who's more likly to back out, because it happens so often.

don't forget "depositors" have created the world where not all children are wanted.

Aug. 13 2008 01:31 PM
george d from white plains, ny

r u a kid,
thanks for the sincere and well thought out answer but you misunderstand, this is about principles, not personalities
what about trusting a woman enough to deposit then she changes her mind?

Aug. 13 2008 12:57 PM
areukiddinme? from NYC


If your sperm is so precious to you it is YOUR resposibility to watch where you put it.

Aug. 13 2008 12:21 PM
george d from white plains, ny

Yup, that seems to be a reasonable assumption and might well be promoted as a legitimate argument. The weakness in that position which troubles me is that I was taught, in ninth grade civics, that in our democracy every treasured right is attended by, and dependent upon, an equally imperative responsibility and that to enjoy the rights we must accept the responsibilities.
When a woman chooses to accept within her physical body and carry there, for whatever period of time, a physical portion of another human being which contains a vital and unique genetic identity, what responsibility is she accepting?

Aug. 13 2008 11:55 AM

george d: I would assume the answer would have something to do with the fact that it's the woman's body that is carrying the child, not the man's. A man's insisting a woman carry a child she doesn't want to term would be tantamount to slavery.

Contraception--what a beautiful choice.

Aug. 13 2008 10:58 AM
george d from white plains, ny

A woman chooses to have intercourse with a man. The man chooses to participate. Both choose to use no 'protection'. A pregnancy develops from this coupling. The woman will then employ her right to unilaterally choose the course of this event. The man is thereby denied any right to chose the course of this same event. Please explain why the woman's rights should supersede the man's. Thank you.

Aug. 13 2008 10:51 AM

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