Striking Out

Thursday, April 30, 2009

Indian men living in the US used to have a leg up when searching for a wife back in India. Shefali Anand, Wall Street Journal reporter, on how the recession has hurt their chances of ending up with an Indian bride.


Shefali Anand

Comments [16]

Indian girl from Brooklyn

This segment was weak. I personally found the guest host (Shefali Anand) to be condescending and ironically, culturally insensitive.

Btw, having a boyfriend or girlfriend in India IS a lot more prevalent these days.

May. 04 2009 12:44 AM
Shweta from New Jersey

In these economic times the sell-ability of shows and articles that talk about the "third world"/developing nations is very high, even if the issue is rather lame. The truth is middle class women are more ambitious than ever. They have good education and values. They will not accept male chauvinists as their husbands. It is not just the cook, the cleaner and the domestic help that is making them refuse the H1B grooms. Most women dont want to give up their own career and live as dependents in a foreign country. More so in the recession because if the H1B husband loses the job they will all be sent packing within a month. The interest is in staying in your home country because if you lost your job alteast you wont be kicked out of your home!

Apr. 30 2009 11:57 AM

I feel like this segment is degrading into a "shopping for a wife" story.

In reference to the Korean-American man, why look down on Korean-American women when you too grew up with the same American influences?

Apr. 30 2009 10:58 AM

Parents think that their children would be better off in front of their eyes than going to the states and suffer without job and no relatives to help them during their hard times. The main reason is they want their children to be happy and independent. Even if they don't have a job in India, atleast they have someone to support them.

Apr. 30 2009 10:58 AM
Al from Valley Stream, NY

Why is it Americans think their degenerate culture and relationship motif is superior to the rest of the world? With a divorce rate around 50 percent, I wouldn't be so proud, despite the assertion about women's freedom. I will bet that the divorce rate is substantially lower among matched couples. This culture, with Hollywood as a role model, has become a pathetic example and how not to build lasting relationships.

Apr. 30 2009 10:58 AM
Joe Denaro from Manhattan

Your subject seems to have resonance accross cultural boundries. Why not expand the topic to discuss the overall REJECTION of this materialistic, sex-obcessed society as it pertians to the global fundementalist movement?
aka....el quida or taliban!!!
It's a "baby with the bath water" issue, essentially......

Apr. 30 2009 10:57 AM
Cedra from NYC

Can the guest comment on American-born white men who are also going overseas (as expats or otherwise) to establish more "traditional" families. Is this sort of a vote of opinion as to how these men feel about American women?

Apr. 30 2009 10:57 AM
Susy from manhattan

I cannot believe what that caller said-- I personally wasn't allowed to have Barbies and didn't watch Sex and the City...not all women in this country are materialistic.

What a weak arguement. No wonder he had to leave the US to find someone who would put up with him.

Apr. 30 2009 10:57 AM
N from Brooklyn

I think this is a great topic.

But I hated that comment made by the Korean guy - there are plenty of American women with substance and values who are not Carrie Bradshaw worshipers. His comment sounded more like the same old classic male chauvinism from the "mother country" (I'm an American-born girl in an immigrant family).

Apr. 30 2009 10:57 AM
Merrill from New York, NY

Nigerian friends I have tell me how excellent the education is and they plan to return home when their children are high school age to attend high school in Nigeria.

Apr. 30 2009 10:56 AM

Maybe Greg couldn't find anybody in New York because of his misogynistic point of view.

Apr. 30 2009 10:55 AM

Why is this even a story. Who cares? Brian and the NPR crowd probably looks down on traditional cultures of people, particularly Asian peoples because its "so backward etc." I guess this is a way for Brian etal, to make fun of traditional cultural practices.

Apr. 30 2009 10:54 AM
Rahul from Manhattan

While this is the case, it should be seen in the context of urban versus rural lens, which can extend to a caste as culture and language issue. I find that my relatives are able to find spouses in our ancestral rural areas because of a desire to maintain a caste culture and language parity. It is more difficult to find someone in larger cities like mumbai who feel the need to relocate.

Apr. 30 2009 10:53 AM
O from Forest Hills

Boring the quality has gone down on this program!


Apr. 30 2009 10:50 AM
Priya from Brooklyn

Well also H1B visas are not as readily available.

On another note, my mother has long told my cousins not to move to the US, as life is much harder here than it would be in India.

Apr. 30 2009 10:47 AM
American Born Indian

This is a BS story. I use one of the online services and I get the vast majority of interest from Indian women living in India or born in India. I get few responses from Indian women born and raised here.

Marriage in India is a diverse and complex activity. You can always find 20 people you know who may have had problems. But, you know what? It is a sliver of a sliver of the total population of people seeking a bride.

The bigger issue is that women maybe more picky because educated women are earning money. They have benefited from the outsourcing and the liberalization of the economy. And, you find that the parents overall and the women overall are more selective because of that. They can live a comfortable life without getting married. The view of parents "I have 3 daughters that I have to marry off" isn't as prevalent.

The ability of women to earn money is the real reason why things are starting to even out.

I can't speak for what happens in villages. But, this seems to be what is happening in urban areas.

Apr. 30 2009 10:20 AM

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