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Man Up

Friday, September 28, 2012

Carlos Andrés Gómez, poet, actor, activist and the author of Man Up: Cracking the Code of Modern Manhood, wants to redefine masculinity and offer young men options beyond the hyper-masculine scripts he says they see as their only options.

→ Events: Carlos Andrés Gómez reading on October 1, 2012, at 7:30PM at Greenlight Bookstore, in Brooklyn, NY and on October 4, 2012 at 6:00PM at La Casa Azul, New York, NY.

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Carlos Andrés Gómez
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Comments [13]

Bottom line: men are losing in many areas of American society today. All we are is genetic fodder.

Sep. 28 2012 11:11 AM
John A.

I spent a few sad days at the office once. A co-worker thought sure from the red rings around my eyes (from crying) that I had become an alcoholic. Message didn't get through I guess!

Sep. 28 2012 11:04 AM
Nick from UWS

"Man up" means to not display or acknowledge pain, be it physical or psychological. It's complete bullshit.

Sep. 28 2012 11:02 AM
Arthur from Ny

Colombian and white? Brian, you exhibit the worst, racist, condescending attitude - you are such a progressive!

Sep. 28 2012 10:58 AM

Another psuedo-sociology segment. Next.

Sep. 28 2012 10:58 AM
Nick from UWS

@John from NYC: Great comment.

Sep. 28 2012 10:57 AM
jgarbuz from Queens

Well, male homo sapiens are merely returning to the pre-civilized state that existed before "marriage" and "family" was created. The ROLE that men took upon themselves as protectors of "their" kith and kin while women do the domestic duties of bearing and raising children is a ROLE that has been radically undermined. Since women have taken over the ROLES that men used to play, men return to the rambunctious and care-free existences with lessened domestic responsibilities. Women and men compete for the same livelihoods,but women invariably gain control of the children when there is a breakup, so why should men "man up," whatever that means?

Sep. 28 2012 10:57 AM
Robert from NYC

Why is this important?

Sep. 28 2012 10:56 AM
CK from YKT

Other than the fact he wrote a book, what's his expertise here? I don't think this is much of a story. Time to go get a cup of coffee.

Sep. 28 2012 10:55 AM
thatgirl from manhattan

What might Mr. Gomez have to say about the "masculinization" of women: young women running guns for gangs, beating up on men and women in subways? While I'm the first to challenge "gender roles," this doesn't signify progress to me.

And I can relate to Mr. Gomez' reaction to his challenger in the club. When a drunken senior woman wouldn't let me climb my own stoop to my apartment, in a neighborhood where I was the minority for some time, I respectfully asked if I may please pass. She responded with a hard left hook to my jaw, in front of a cluster of children she was "minding" and most of those living on my street. While I shouldn't have been shocked, it's exactly what I felt--mixed with a tremendous sadness for where I see women going in this vein. I couldn't stop crying once I got into my building, and was restless about it for days following.

Sep. 28 2012 10:54 AM
Nick from UWS

Contrary to what this guest said, nobody is being sent off to war. No man today is victim of a mandatory draft. Not even in the week after 9/11 were men drafted. Men are VOLUNTEERING to go to war, sometimes with great eagerness. When men stop viewing war and violence in a glorified manner, and stop participating in it on a mass scale, then men will truly be making progress. Until this happens, men can be considered to not be not taking personal responsibility for their actions.

Sep. 28 2012 10:54 AM
John from NYC

The question is are women ready to accept differing versions are manhood?

Sep. 28 2012 10:54 AM

sarah palin says man up a lot

Sep. 28 2012 10:53 AM

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