Grandma Lamott

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

After striking a chord with her story of single motherhood, Operating Instructions, Anne Lamott, author of Some Assembly Required: A Journal of My Son's First Son, now writes of her experience as a grandmother.  

Anne Lamott reads from Some Assembly Required at 7pm tonight at the Union Square Barnes & Noble


Anne Lamott

Comments [18]

barbara patton

We have a 2nd marriage of 22 years. My husband has 4 children & I have 2. But we always tell people we have 14 grands. We have never missed a Bday a graduation (middle school/h.s./college) & at Cmas we are all together to celebrate, the Sat before Cmas Day.
All of the families have always sought our advice & b/c my step daughters mom is deceased. they have always sought my advice about raising kids and other life issues. When advice is not asked for I have learned to keep my opinion to myself. I feel blessed!

Mar. 20 2012 12:05 PM
Cheryl from Verona, NJ

Can anyone let me know if Ann Lamott has written anything about how she survived Sam's teenage years? I am forever indebted to her for Operating Instructions and I know she would have great advice for the period I am now in which is the ugly teen years.

Mar. 20 2012 12:03 PM
John A.

What a mix of comments. I am opposed to her in many ways but actually like her position on grandparenting. How many have experienced problems with parental control post childhood *raises hand*. Found this segment a test of listening over prejudice.

Mar. 20 2012 12:02 PM
bernie from bklyn

ok, i'm going to do some crowd sourcing.....was this guest more or less grating than jill abramson's voice?

Mar. 20 2012 12:02 PM

This woman seems very sweet but her comment about loving her grandson more than anyone but Jesus strikes me as insane.

Mar. 20 2012 11:58 AM
Martin Chuzzlewit from Manhattan

"Young people don't want our advice." "Respect their boundaries"

YIKES !!!!

I don't even know where to start with that statement, given her son's situation .....and her incredibly naive statements today on EVERYTHING.
Yes, I don't think anyone needs HER advice for sure.

Mar. 20 2012 11:57 AM
Sophie from Poughkeepsie, NY

hmmmmm...a wasted segment in my opinion.

Mar. 20 2012 11:56 AM
Debbie from NYC

I'm pregnant with my first child, and I REALLY appreciate the rule of holding your tongue or "WAIT." I hope my parents & especially my mother in law feel the same way. If they are listening, I promise to ask for help if I need it.

Mar. 20 2012 11:54 AM
bernie from bklyn

oh my god....this is excruciating!
the last 2 segments were sooooo good and then this. trying to keep us in check BL?

Mar. 20 2012 11:54 AM
francyne from Pelham Bay Park

As abortion rights continue to be under threat, this story makes me feel so fortunate that when I got pregnant (yes, using birth control) at 19 and a university student on her own. I could not count on parents to send me out of the country if abortion had been illegal. Back then, I didn't know that people paid for babies by white, well-educated young women. My life would have been ruined. Then and now. At least now I can say I'm child free and grandchild free, able to travel, live my life untrammeled.

Mar. 20 2012 11:54 AM
MichaelB from Morningside Heights

I'm sorry, but the guest's comments are trite and cliched. She has purposely created her own "situation" and somehow has convinced herself and others that there is something unique about it and she is some kind of expert...

But an expert about what? About living her own life? Well, she HAS trained to live her own life... her ENTIRE life, hasn't she?

I don't often ask this question, but why is she on the show? What has she really got to say that we haven't heard -- what? a BILLION times??

Mar. 20 2012 11:53 AM
jgarbuz from Queens

It's batty women like this one that turned me from a former Liberal Democrat to a pro-Santorum Republican! Enuf said.

Mar. 20 2012 11:51 AM
bernie from bklyn

wait a second, is this the leonard lopate show? aren't out of touch, fantasy-world dwellers supposed to be on at noon on NYC?
"out of wedlock is so jane austen".....yeah, go to the projects where i grew up and see what's going on because of out of wedlock births and tell me if that "jane austen" or not.

Mar. 20 2012 11:50 AM
Martin Chuzzlewit from Manhattan

"I think everyone feels lost and pummeled today", she just said.

No, YOU feel lost and pummeled. (I feel fine.)

Why is this woman a public celebrity? This is what passes as an "INTELLECTUAL" in this modern, coarse culture. How far we have fallen.

Mar. 20 2012 11:47 AM
MichaelB from Morningside Heights

I fully agree with Martin's comments about how our attitudes toward single parenting have been evolving in our society over a period of decades. I speak as a father of two teenage boys, whose mother had done over 10 years' worth of damage to my relationship to my sons, undermining me as their father, encouraging their disrespect, and keeping me from seeing them. And I see the emotional damage to these boys, not only from their mother's actions and behavior, but by not having a positive male role model in their lives.

I have repeatedly read that one of the strongest predictors of success and happiness for children is having a positive and loving relationship with their father: school, drugs, criminal behavior, teen/out-of-wedlock pregnancy -- all strongly correlated with relationships to their fathers.

And yet, as Martin points out, we have been continued to celebrate the single mother again and again.

Look, let me be clear: if a mother has no choice -- if she is abandoned by the father, then she IS a hero. But to willfully choose to or carelessly bring fatherless children into the world doesn't do those kids any good, and certainly not society.

It seems that nothing is out of bounds these days, and if you can be a victim, you will be celebrated. There is no appreciation for the institution of marriage -- and its connection to the larger community.

Ms. LaMott just underlined that with her laughing at the idea of marriage as "so Jane Austin." Sorry, but she seems ignorant of thousands of years of anthropological tradition, and trivializes it with a casual, smarmy dismissal.


Mar. 20 2012 11:46 AM
Tom from Toronto

"I don't have a clue". That about sums it up.

Mar. 20 2012 11:45 AM
jgarbuz from Queens

Hey Martin

It's a war on FATHERS, and men in general. Power corrupts and women have obtained ABSOLUTE power over everything concerning children. And since women are the majority, living 7 years longer than men (now why would that be?), the democratic political system has to give in to everything their hearts desire! Whether its abortion, or assistance to single mothers, or whatever they want they can get! If if it means the destruction of America and the West in general, so be it! No wonder Islam is the fastest growing religion!

Mar. 20 2012 11:42 AM
Martin Chuzzlewit from Manhattan

The single parent birth rate is now 41% of all births in this country!!!
Yes, 41% !!!! (now over 70% of African-American births and over 50% of all Hispanic births)
Think that's a good thing, do you?
Blame it on the desensitization, nay, celebration of this by writers like Lamott. (Yes, call me cynical and mean.)
But, here's the best part......ready?
Her Amazon book blurb describes that she (yes, even SHE) is “stunned to learn that her son, Sam, is about to become a father at nineteen." She is shocked...shocked (!) that her son might mirror her attitudes toward parenting!
LOL, are WE "stunned” to guess that this is what happens after such acculturation...that the cycle continues and worsens?
As YEATS wrote prophetically 90 years ago….
“Turning and turning in the widening gyre
The falcon cannot hear the falconer;
Things fall apart; the center cannot hold;
Mere anarchy is loosed upon the world.”

Mar. 20 2012 08:30 AM

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