Clementi's Older Brother: I Don't Hate Tyler's Roommate
Friday, February 03, 2012
The brother of the Rutgers student who committed suicide said he did not hate the roommate who secretly streamed a video of his brother on the Internet with another man days before he jumped off the George Washington Bridge.
“I hate what he did,” said James Clementi, older brother of Tyler Clementi, who died in September 2010.
Tyler was a freshman at Rutgers University when his roommate Dharun Ravi streamed a video of him in an intimate embrace with another man on the internet. Clementi leapt to his death days later.
James, who is also gay, said he had planned to counsel Tyler but he never got the chance.
"We had just started to really have that conversation with each other," James told WNYC’s The Takeaway on Friday. "I definitely thought that there were years and decades left for us to get to know each other and to talk about that."
This week, James Clementi published "Letters to My Brother" in Out Magazine, which tell the story of brotherhood cut short.
"When you were here with me, you had no idea how important you were," he writes. "It took your death to make that point. Now you are gone. How will you know how much I love you, how much we all do?"
Speaking on Friday, Clementi offered advice to young gay people thinking of following his brother's dark path.
"Never give up,” he said. “Never end your life. Your life is the most precious thing that you have. There's always hope as long as you keep fighting."