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Please Explain: Crying

Friday, April 04, 2008

Get out your tissues - Please Explain is all about crying. What are tears made of? How did crying evolve? Is it a uniquely human phenomenon? Does it have health benefits? Vassar psychology professor Randy Cornelius has been developing an evolutionary theory of weeping that focuses on tears. Tom Lutz, director of the MFA in Creative Writing and Writing for Performance program at UC-Riverside Palm Desert, is the author of Crying: The Natural and Cultural History of Tears.


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  • [1] James The Giant Peach from Park Slope April 04, 2008 - 01:22PM

    sometimes I cry when I'm really angry at someone. Why is that?


  • [2] sandy from Newport Beach, CA April 04, 2008 - 01:22PM

    My sister had her wisdom teeth removed and was placed under general anethesia - when they woke her up after the procedure - she woke up bawling her eyes out. What was happening?


  • [3] Carol Scudder from Brooklyn April 04, 2008 - 01:37PM

    I am an actress, and have noticed that when I cry "in a role", even if I do it over and over in rehearsal, my face, red eyes etc. clear up quickly. When I cry in "real life" it takes much longer for my face to get back to normal. Interesting, huh?


  • [4] Tony Bruguier from San Jose, CA April 04, 2008 - 01:38PM

    It is not socially acceptable to cry for men. Is it more socially acceptable somewhere else?


  • [5] TG from Joisey April 04, 2008 - 01:38PM

    We cry when we are overwhelmed and are at a loss at how to deal with the situation. When our usual methods of dealing no longer work.


  • [6] Sue from North Salem, NY April 04, 2008 - 01:40PM

    I rarely cry from sadness, but when I laugh the tears flow copiously.


  • [7] Kate from NY April 04, 2008 - 01:43PM

    I find that I cry easily at commercials, movies, plays, books....fictionalized sadness. But like the caller just said, I stand stone-faced at funerals. It's like the sadness of reality doesn't affect me as much.


  • [8] Sabrina April 04, 2008 - 01:45PM

    Its amazing to me to hear people talk about the emotional body as if it is something alien to their own beings.

    Emotions have gradients like color. Rage at one polarity and terror at the other. Grief is in the middle so of course it will have shades of the other two. To speak of crying as only a function of illiciting response from others shows how separate science and people who observe emotion are from the actual experience they are studying. This discussion is framing emotion as if it is more a burden or a clever manipulation rather than the enlightening process of being that can bring us to understanding ourselves and others. Imagine having only mind and intellect without any guidance from emotion.

    Just one more note people who cry often have a backlog of emotion that they need to process. And the emotional body is looking for any opportunity to find release.


  • [9] upper west sider (psychotherapist) April 04, 2008 - 01:45PM

    Crying is an attachment behavior (as is laughing)--Judith Kay Nelson, a psychoanalyst, has written on these behaviors. This would explain why seeing a person or animal in pain would stimulate a crying response whereas just hearing about a tragedy (e.g., Rwanda massacres) wouldn't. But I cried after seeing Hotel Rwanda!


  • [10] Connie April 04, 2008 - 01:45PM

    Why does my voice go all high and squeaky when I cry? It's got to be a physical change, no?


  • [11] donna from brooklyn April 04, 2008 - 01:46PM

    I am currently in a relationship with an argentine who speaks little English. I speak some Spanish but don't have sufficient fluency to express complex feelings. I have been struck by how often I find myself in tears which is VERY unusual for me (even though I am female!). this discussion is really interesting...


  • [12] lynn from NJ April 04, 2008 - 01:49PM

    Why do people (me) cry at the accomplishment of others?

    people that beat all odds, standing ovations, etc.

    Lynn


  • [13] Kate from NY April 04, 2008 - 01:50PM

    Extreme Makeover Home Edition, ick. That's a show where they just shamelessly milk the waterworks for all they're worth. It's like they don't trust us to have an emotional response on our own, they really have to grind it in our face, CRY NOW, THIS IS REALLY TOUCHING!! Shows like that strike me as phony and leave me cold.


  • [14] Katherine from manhattan April 04, 2008 - 01:51PM

    What about crying in your sleep? Crying while dreaming?


  • [15] david April 04, 2008 - 01:53PM

    I can't believe your panelists don't understand that tears are part of waste elimination from your body. Crying more easily because your hung over is your body's way of eliminating what ever you've introduced to your body by drinking booze.

    Am I so completely off the wall that they say there's no research. ?


  • [16] Maya from Brooklyn April 04, 2008 - 01:53PM

    Confession: If I need to cry but can't "get started", I put on the soundtrack to Fiddler on the Roof.

    Wow, I'm glad I got that off my chest. I feel like I should submit this to Post Secret or something....


  • [17] MG from NYC April 04, 2008 - 01:54PM

    What about the increased tendency to cry when pre-menstrual? Is there a hormonal component?


  • [18] Jay Reilly from Bellmore, LI April 04, 2008 - 01:54PM

    Its that moment when Stan Laurel thinks of the wooden soldiers that I cry. I'm a 52 year old man and it still gets me!


  • [19] TG from Joisey April 04, 2008 - 01:55PM

    What about how you might find yourself laughing after crying?


  • [20] Mo Mejia from nyc April 04, 2008 - 01:55PM

    Leonard, thank you. Nice show, you are funny. "it was the subtitle" good one I cried of joy.


  • [21] Georgette Victor from Sunnyside, Queens April 04, 2008 - 01:56PM

    Is there any connection between the inability to smile easily and the inability to cry easily?


  • [22] tom from new york city April 04, 2008 - 01:56PM

    Catharsis is certral to crying. The movies mentioned are not unlike the Greek Tragedies that were engineered to bring about a catharsis:a physiological and psychological function.


  • [23] Diana from NYC April 04, 2008 - 01:57PM

    Hi Leonard,

    Cortázar has this cronopio on Instructions to cry

    Putting the reasons for crying aside for the moment, we might concentrate on the correct way to cry, which, be it understood, means a weeping that doesn’t turn into a big commotion nor proves an affront to the smile with its parallel and dull similarity. The average, everyday weeping consists of a general contraction of the face and a spasmodic sound accompanied by tears and mucus, this last toward the end, since the cry ends at the point when one energetically blows one’s nose.

    In order to cry, steer the imagination toward yourself, and it this proves impossible owing to having contacted the habit of believing in the exterior world, think of a duck covered with ants or of those gulfs in the Strait of Magellan into which no one sails ever.

    Coming to the weeping itself, cover the face decorously, using both hands, palms inward. Children are to cry with the sleeve of the dress or shirt pressed against the face, preferably in a corner of the room. Average duration of the cry, three minutes.

    Julio Cortázar, Cronopios and Famas.

    http://maudnewton.com/blog/?p=3399


  • [24] Robert from Bergen County April 04, 2008 - 02:00PM

    As I am watching "John Adams" tears are coming to my eyes. I wonder if, in this case, there are parallels between the birth of a child and the birth of a nation.


  • [25] Connie April 04, 2008 - 02:01PM

    Yes, MG, I feel that there's a hormonal element to this--since I reached menopause, I want to cry at every stupid thing. It's a big change, very different than I was before.


  • [26] Fletcher from Westchester April 04, 2008 - 05:51PM

    It seemed the point made by the last guest on the program was completely missed - that she abandoned her father precisely when she should have stayed with him, could have attended him. I found her story very touching, and wanted to thank her for telling it. The slippers fit perfectly, and he wept.


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