Dr. Arthur Aron's name is spelled incorrectly above. There's no S at the end: http://www.psychology.stonybrook.edu/aronlab-/.

In case listeners are looking for more information on his work.

My spouse and I have been madly in love for 24 years -- exactly the kind of a couple Dr Arthur Arons studies. However, we've been told by therapists that our relationship isn't healthy because we're too obsessed with each other. How does one differentiate between being neurotically involved and healthily involved? Or does such a differentiation exist at all?

Have these findings been published anywhere?
Where can they be found?

I wonder how family history plays into this. Are people from more entact families more likely to have these long term feelings than people from divorced parents and chaotic family systems?

Were there any differences in brain activity between those individuals that have children and those without?

interestingly enough my wife and I just celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary (and 32nd year together.

I say the secrets are:
1) repeating your love Verbally
2) making sure your spouse and you develop on the same level
3) dont let the kids ever separate you

What of the polyamorous community? I do have this feeling for more than just one person.

is it necessary to maintain monogamy to do this?