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• [1] Katie from Forest Hills June 16, 2008 - 10:45AM

  What they are saying about people being used for visas is for sure!

  My first husband tried this one on me but he didn't get his visa. Instead, I was out $20k on all the money I spent and heart broken for years, but he didn't get a visa.

  On the other hand, one of my friends is from the Philippines, married a lady from there and they are happily married 10 years later with 3 kids.

  It depends on the people, but there is a lot going on with people get visas and take off.

  
  
• [2] Theresa from Brooklyn June 16, 2008 - 10:50AM

  Oh this is so funny. They want a "traditional" woman from home, but they can't stop that women from "Americanizing" once she gets here. It's been the same for other immigrant groups for generations! A guy just can't win. :P

  
  
• [3] Katie from Forest Hills June 16, 2008 - 10:53AM

  Yeah, LOL!

  And they want a submissive woman!!

  I'm laughing all the way to the bank on that one.

  
  
• [4] Leigh from Brooklyn June 16, 2008 - 10:53AM

  "I want a submissive...no I mean TRADITIONAL woman"...hah. Ha ha.

  
  
• [5] Caroline from manhattan June 16, 2008 - 10:54AM

  Clearly, WNYC needs to add another theme night to its singles mixers!

  
  
• [6] Rogue from NYC June 16, 2008 - 10:57AM

  Yes, a guy CAN win.

  I am a young American man who made his mint in NYC and then moved to Central America 3 years ago. In the world outside of America's failed feminist experiment, here are some facts for you to brood over:

  American women have a bad publicity problem, and rightly so.

  Feminism does not matter, modern or otherwise. No need to define, redefine, remake, figure out, wonder about, or consider at all.

  Whatever momentum your "movement" has, it comes to a screeching halt at the Rio Grande.

  Folks around here never did see feminism as a threat or as powerful but merely as an annoyance while living in the U.S. and now, well, its just a source of humor. Plus you never have to concern yourselves with mens' rights activists in this brave new world; they simply don't exist...imagine that.

  Here in the good ol' third world I and my fellow Americans (there are many here now, some with PFSD) are immersed in bevies of femininity.

  So, yes, men can win.

  
  
• [7] Rogue from BevyLand June 16, 2008 - 11:02AM

  Men in our expat colony do not respect or acknowledge or abide by the following:

  Work life balance

  Repro rights

  Diversity

  IMBRA

  Marriage Broker Regulation Act

  Inclusion

  Stay at home moms

  Body image

  Political correctness

  Title IX

  Take your daughters to work

  Affirmative action

  Tahirih Justice Center

  Maternity leave

  Cultural Marxism

  Ms Foundation

  Third party childcare

  Paternity leave

  Linda Hirshman

  Male bashing

  Opt out myth

  Having it all

  Bonnie Erbe

  Pay equity

  Gloria Steinem

  Fish riding bicycles

  National Organization for Women

  Takes a village

  Mommy track

  Biological clock

  Gender

  Wage gap

  Gender role

  Career vs family

  Cultural Marxism (repeated)

  Political correctness (repeated)

  ...and blah blah, ecchh

  Because WE DON'T HAVE TO!!

  
  
• [8] Katie from Forest Hills June 16, 2008 - 11:04AM

  If you don't have to, than why post on the board?

  
  
• [9] Sam from Brooklyn June 16, 2008 - 11:04AM

  Hmmm. Apparently someone didn't have much luck with American women. No worries, the developing world to the rescue! Leverage those dollars, man.

  
  
• [10] Katie from Forest Hills June 16, 2008 - 11:06AM

  Are you trying to convince us or yourself?

  I've been to Mexico and Central America. The women were very strong and many feminists, they are not cowering afraid, docile little things bossed about. We all knew who wears the pants in those families.

  If the mother likes you, you're okay, if not, you're out.

  
  
• [11] Rogue from BevyLand June 16, 2008 - 11:06AM

  I and a few hundred others got out in time; it was either join the marriage strike or move to paradise. Guess what we did?

  Ironically, you and your ilk are actually helping us now. Many roads in Central America (CA) were built through American-taxpayer funded programs. I assume you pay taxes. Therefore, I thank American feminist taxpayers for making it easier for me to access multitudes of beautiful non-feminist / feminist-hating foreign women. Imagine that.

  In 2004, about 225 American men (just in our group; there are thousands of others) expatriated to CA, married foreign women and established a subculture with strong taboos and social ostracism for violating those taboos. This new Patriatopia is a beacon; an experiment and shining example of community life that offers hope to Western men AND women.

  You do not in the United States have a culture that is healthy and conducive to the preservation of traditional families. The dominant culture is feminism and that dominance is strengthening due to the influence of radical feminism.

  There is a way out. We found it.

  
  
• [12] Mira from Uptown June 16, 2008 - 11:20AM

  Rogue, your actions are damaging to feminists in the US and a setback for over 40 years of work. We are trying to change the attitude of men so they will treat everyone as equals. Convincing men to leave as sort of a detour around feminism is not fair. You list IMBRA. Well, that is the first law designed to limit communication (emails, phone calls) between American men and foreign women seeking to marry each other. That is a good law and then there are these guys:

  http://www.online-dating-rights.com/index.php

  
  
• [13] Buobaker from New York June 16, 2008 - 09:49PM

  Culture, religious and way of living plays role for peoples who want to get married. I was born in the USA raised in Africa by my parent who still there, moved back to US when i become 18yrs. I spend 10yrs in the US reclaiming my American life. Marriage had become issue for me after my relationships with my American girl friends didn't work and all my trips, the long distance calls and family choices for me was disaster. people change wherever they are but it difficult to ignore the influences and experiences in making the decision.