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The Weight of the World on Her Shoulder

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Paula Marantz Cohen, distinguished professor of English at Drexel University, writes about shopping for Smart Set.com, new journal from Drexel. She talks about her recent column on handbags -- and why men don't seem to need them. Her most recent novel is Jane Austen in Scarsdale: Or Love, Death, and the SATs. And Dr. Michael Minardo, a chiropractor talks about what women can do to stop their back pain, and what they should look for when they are shopping for a purse.

Paula Marantz Cohen's website


Comments

  • [1] nic October 23, 2007 - 10:44AM

    wallet, bills, reminders & shopping lists, hair clips, lipstick & liner, cell phone, other odds & ends....


  • [2] Anne from Times Square Pedestrian Commuter October 23, 2007 - 10:45AM

    Oh give me a break! I do not carry any make up in my handbag (unless you count chapstick). But, I do carry my planner, cell phone, wallet, keys, umbrella, my current book, iPod, ink pens, bandaids, advil, flash light, notepad, postage stamps, my lunch...

    Basically, it's like a briefcase plus a first aid kit.


  • [3] Sharon from Brooklyn October 23, 2007 - 10:45AM

    The main point of a handbag is for the MILK - Money, ID, Lipstick, Keys.


  • [4] lb from brooklyn October 23, 2007 - 10:45AM

    i have a giant handbag....(but it only cost $10 used) and i actually dont carry any make-up in it. i carry my planner,cell,ipod,book(s), sometimes a camera (i'm a photographer), snacks...pretty much everything but the kichen sink. but i use it all!


  • [5] hjs from 11211 October 23, 2007 - 10:45AM

    as a male i use a simple back pack


  • [6] Anne from Times Square Pedestrian Commuter October 23, 2007 - 10:46AM

    Oh, and I only paid about $150 bucks for my fantastic Tano bag!


  • [7] Maxim Tsupko from Austin, TX October 23, 2007 - 10:46AM

    There are "man-purses" out there too, the metrosexual phenomenon has also increased the market. I personally have a backpack with a small endoskeleton ,easier on the back.


  • [8] bk from nyc October 23, 2007 - 10:46AM

    I don't wear any makeup but lipstick. but what's heavy in my bag is a book & a bottle of water - both a necessity on the subway (water - what if I get stuck on the train).

    I have a nice big bag but I've never spend more than $100.

    when I go out at night is a wallet, cell, notebook. that's about it.


  • [9] Erin from Brooklyn October 23, 2007 - 10:47AM

    Not sure I understand why this is a topic worthy of the BL show...not that I don't like a nice handbag or anything...


  • [10] Connie October 23, 2007 - 10:47AM

    the perfect handbag--it must be a backpack, with a compartment for my New Yorker so the magazine doesn't slip down to the bottom. At least 2 smaller pockets to separate wallet, chapstick, mints, keys, hankies. The big compartment must hold my umbrella and whatever I've bought that day at Target or the Gap or Pearl River, and sometimes it carries my leftover lunch home. Most backpacks with the right 'organization' for me are TOO BIG. The small packs are all one compartment, which is USELESS.


  • [11] Theresa October 23, 2007 - 10:48AM

    Phooey, I don't have ANY makeup in my bag, except a lipstick. But I don't travel light. I like to be prepared. I have my keys, pens and pencils, my wallet,checkbook, my phone, a flash drive, a comb, Advil, safety pins, and a paperback in case I get stuck waiting somewhere.


  • [12] Lola from UES October 23, 2007 - 10:48AM

    Before I moved to NYC I didn't have the need for a big bag, because I had a car. I could keep my gym clothes and school books etc in my car, but in the city we need to tote all this stuff around with us, on our shoulders!


  • [13] Waldo from Manhattan October 23, 2007 - 10:48AM

    No purse, but a tote bag -- water, extra shoes, book to read, French grammar book to study, Sunday Times Magazine, hand lotion, hairbrush, snack (apple or cheese or pb&j, Met Museum Calendar, sometimes bird book and binoculars.


  • [14] Peter from Brooklyn October 23, 2007 - 10:49AM

    I carry a "Murse" (man + purse) & i love it.

    Its a small canvas book satchel from The Strand. I carry my life in it, keys, ipod, headphones, NY Times, pens, sometmes wallet, cell.

    I also hate carrying a wallet in my front pocket during the summer (late october???)

    We live in a city without cars, we need to carry our trunk / glovebox.


  • [15] ab October 23, 2007 - 10:49AM

    "Men choose women based upon what bag they carry..." That would be very sad if it were true


  • [16] Susan from Somers October 23, 2007 - 10:49AM

    My purse has my wallet, ipod, cellphone, feminine unmentionables, lip gloss, gum, pad of paper and a couple pens. It's very light.

    However, don't ask me what's in the DIAPER BAG! That's a whole different radio show....


  • [17] SuzanneNYC October 23, 2007 - 10:50AM

    New Yorkers, for the most part, don't drive cars. So what we carry around in bags -- purses and/or totes is what most people have in their cars. My rule of thumb for purchasing a bag is that it must be light weight to start with, must have zipper close, and must be big enough to hold a bottle of water and a newspaper along with everything else (wallet, cosmetic bag, eye glasses, kleenex, walkman, and little things like cough drops, gum, etc.)


  • [18] Laisze Pansy Poon October 23, 2007 - 10:50AM

    My boy friend end up giving me his stuff out of his pocket. I carry a backpack most days, so I can carry my lunch, umbrella, flash light, etc, but no make up! No hand bag is big enough.


  • [19] Mary P from downtown October 23, 2007 - 10:51AM

    I think that bags have become a boom industry because no matter how fat you get a new bag (and shoes too) make you feel great and well dressed.


  • [20] Che Ramone from Upper Saddle River, NJ October 23, 2007 - 10:51AM

    I think now more than ever Men are carrying hand bags too; hence, the name Manbag.  As a manbag wearer I understand why women are so addicted. There’s a simple convenience to having the ability to keep whatever they want right next to them I quite bag that says looks at me.


  • [21] CH from NYC October 23, 2007 - 10:51AM

    Women carry handbags so we can provide all the little necessities (pain relievers, tissues, breath mints, checkbook, subway maps, etc.) for our partners and children whose pockets won't hold them. And don't forget men also carry bags (but they call them shoulder sacks). BTW, Brian, I don't wear make-up. In my bag is a PDA, small emergency cell phone, paperback book, medicine, phone & PDA sync cord, pens, pad of paper, address book, checkbook...

    I only replace them when the strap breaks. I look for a wide, substantial shoulder strap long enough to wear baldric-style. It needs a small secure front pocket for the metrocard, and a few large sections. It has to be rain-proof. And it is always solid black.


  • [22] hjs from 11211 October 23, 2007 - 10:52AM

    in the hunter gather system; women gather and they need something to put gathered items into


  • [23] Robert from NYC October 23, 2007 - 10:52AM

    If it doesn't fit in my pockets and not able to carry lightly in my hands, I don't have it with me. I find it ridiculous the crap people must carry in the handbag/backpacks (even more offensive to us, the perfect, who carry nothing). My favorite is the person with the handbag in which is a wallet/change purse at the supermarket. You have to wait behind them while they open the handbag clip then dig in for the wallet and/or change purse then open that/those to get the bills, open the change side get out the exact-to-the-penny change one coin at a time, get back the change put it in the wallet/change purse close those place them in the handbag that's on the counter then clip the handbag closed and then swing that either over the arm or shoulder, pick up the purchased item(s) bag and maybe move or ask a question first. GOOD, I HOPE THEY DO GET PINCHED SHOULDER NERVE...AT LEAST!!!! Really people you're not all that important.

    So I don't have any patience.


  • [24] mgduke from hell's kitchen October 23, 2007 - 10:53AM

    freud was off the wall about many things but on the money regarding purses/handbags, no? isn't that sexual component what drives the desire and acquisitions?


  • [25] Maggie from New Brunswick, NJ October 23, 2007 - 10:53AM

    This discussion is insane and silly. I have *one* bag that I've used for years and years -- why would I want to buy four of them a year? The only reason I keep a bag at all is because women's clothing doesn't have pockets.

    Aren't there more important things going on in the world?


  • [26] Patricia from Brooklyn October 23, 2007 - 10:54AM

    I won’t even go into how many hand bags I own. Today I am using a "Louis Vuiton" that cost me about $1500. It is my 4th LV. My husband keeps asking me if we can pay our mortgage with my bags. Inside the bag I carry everything and anything, Iphone, makeup, my kids’ toys, sunglasses, keys, snacks u name it.

    I don’t believe there is a perfect hand bag, hence the excuse to keep buying them...it is a little shallow I must admit.


  • [27] shauna from montclair October 23, 2007 - 10:54AM

    Please! This is ridiculous. Not all women are like this. I have 1 small, black handbag for everyday. And 1 small, black handbag for formal events.

    I will also say that a few reasons women need handbags are (1) make-up, (2) their periods, (3) the men, children, and pets in their lives who require that women carry stuff around for them too. My husband is always trying to stick me with his cell phone, blackberry, papers, etc.


  • [28] shauna from montclair October 23, 2007 - 10:55AM

    PS Men's clothes also tend to have more pockets than women's clothes do.


  • [29] IC from NY/Montreal October 23, 2007 - 10:56AM

    I have never owned a purse/bag and never will bother. My son proudly tells people his mother is the only woman without a purse/bag....but I ALWAYS carry a huge canvas bag when I shop to skip the plastics!.....I do not shop daily.


  • [30] Robert from NYC October 23, 2007 - 10:57AM

    She ought to be locked up. An extra pair of shoes, imagine that. Does she also carry a rolled up mattress? I've seen it!


  • [31] pat from nj October 23, 2007 - 10:58AM

    What about all of the ugly bags out there these days? I love bags, but , geez, these days they are huge, squashy, and encrusted with buckles, hardware, and all manner of ugly ornament. Ugh. Too, too, much. Less is more.


  • [32] Rich from manhattan October 23, 2007 - 10:58AM

    I can't believe this topic is on the air. What a complete and utter waste of time. Media coverage like this is why Americans are so completely ignorant in so many areas- and yes even New Yorkers are as well.


  • [33] kiki from new york city October 23, 2007 - 10:59AM

    My bag was perfect with the right amount and size of it's pockets, with zippers and snaps. Each pocket is like an organizer. However, it felt heavier than previous bags although I was carrying less, being more organized. A male travel companion carried my bag for a bit and noticed its unseeming weight. I realized later that all the material to make the zippers and pockets with tough nylon-like material weighs more than the bags daily contents.


  • [34] Erin from Brooklyn October 23, 2007 - 10:59AM

    Robert - You're a curmudgeon!

    Some people actually have to carry things in a bag - must be nice to be so "free" and able to carry nothing at all - don't be a hater!

    I carry my lunch, gym clothes - just the necessities for my day. But this conversation is going on too long...


  • [35] World's Toughest Milkman from the_C_train October 23, 2007 - 10:59AM

    Messenger bags are awful, I used one for school and work for years and it wrecked my back.


  • [36] Rosemary from Baldwin, NY October 23, 2007 - 11:00AM

    Three words: feminine sanitary products.

    OK, that's not all. Here's more...

    First of all, most men don't get by with just a pocket. Every guy I ever worked with in Manhattan always had a "bag."

    I defy you to find one man working in an office today who lacks pants pockets, whereas women's pants and skirts frequently have no pockets at all.

    And, the only "makeup" in my purse is a giant tub of Kiehl's lip balm. I also carry my wallet, tissues, keys, Band-Aids, a pen, the above-mentioned products on an as-needed basis, etc.

    When my husband needs tissues or a Band-Aid, guess where he gets them...


  • [37] myra from clifton October 23, 2007 - 11:01AM

    Way to promote the stereotype that women are vain, stupid, and materialistic.

    Actually, it seems like most of the callers were. But they're not representative.


  • [38] ann hennessey from mendham, nj October 23, 2007 - 11:06AM

    I find listening to these women talk about the need to have "bags" that match clothing, reflect who they are, and show others that they are "in" people etc. very disturbing, extremely materialistic and self-indulgent. I would like to respectfully suggest that they may someday get to the end of their life and wonder how they could have wasted so much time on such meaningless pursuits.


  • [39] mimi October 23, 2007 - 11:09AM

    two things.

    why do women pay so much on their handbags?

    --handbags represent their socio-economic status.

    why do they carry so much?

    --it's american/modern neurosism. women like to carry everything because they worry ahead. what are they worrying? they can't stand the moment when they lack something.

    mimi


  • [40] Paula from Putnam Valley October 23, 2007 - 11:13AM

    I can't believe the sexism here!! I carry a wallet, PDA, cellphone and pen. No lipstick, no makeup, no comb. My wallet is overstuffed with ID and credit cards but my husband's is worse, and I am the one who has to wait for him to shuffle through his disorganized cards in his fanny pack. I prefer a bag I can sling across my chest so I can keep it with me at work and not have to hold it or put it down for my drug addict patients to steal. I carry a WNYC or other tote when I need more, like a book or jacket. I buy a new bag only when the strap breaks on my old one, and donate the money I save to a needy cause!


  • [41] rmk October 23, 2007 - 11:33AM

    Makeup, shmakeup.

    I have a giant purse because I am hardly ever at home, and need to haul it all:

    iPod, book, magazine, current knitting project, cell phone, blackberry, wallet, keys, chapstick, eyedrops, mints, checkbook, datebook, journal, pens, flash drive, tissues. And if I am going to hear live music after work (which is often): ear plugs and a camera.

    No wonder my back hurts! But I disagree with what the chiropractor said. When I have tried wearing purses in the messenger bag style, that has given me far worse back pain than the standard style. Also, a lot of places (like Irving Plaza or the MoMA), require you to check your bag if it's a backpack, which defeats the entire purpose of carrying all that stuff around if you can't even access it!


  • [42] chestine from NY October 23, 2007 - 11:38AM

    dream bag sits perfectly on my back but has pockets for access to things like cell phone and metrocard - and it's pretty - I mentaly design this often and wish i could see one. I prefer backpack/bodybag for posture and to have both hands. I make my own lunch as often as i can (out of local food) and i prefer my own decaf so I carry that - the pretty french one i had was made of microfiber and so took a lot of abuse -


  • [43] Sally from NYC October 28, 2007 - 07:49PM

    Listening to this program, I felt embarrassed to be a woman. I simply don't understand this craze about handbags. It's embarrassing how women are such slaves of Madison Avenue. I am a professional woman (an attorney). I own ONE handbag. It is multi-purpose. And it IS perfect. It is a black Fossil(R) bag. Its dimensions: 7" 6" 2". Yes it is tiny. It has a long, thin shoulder strap.

    It fits everything L need, including makeup, comb, contact lense solution, hair spray, cell phone, keys, credit cards, money and IDs.

    When it falls apart, I hope to buy another one just like it.


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