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• [1] Jake Loves from nj June 05, 2007 - 11:11AM

  US weddings may be excessive but weddings in lots of third world countries, like India, Asia etc. cost even more -- in real dollars. MUCH more.

  Curious to hear response.

  
  
• [2] Jim Lang from nj June 05, 2007 - 11:16AM

  Didn't know what the wedding was until the moment I was making a promise in front of all the people I care most about -- it's a promise made in front of all the people you care most about! Not many of those...

  
  
• [3] Roger Witherspoon from teaneck, nj June 05, 2007 - 11:32AM

  The wedding is for two people. All others are observers.

  I'm 58 and for the last 12 years have been a single parent raising 2 daughters: a 25 year old now married in Virginia and a 20-year-old senior at Florida State.

  In February, I and a woman I have been dating flew to Las Vegas the week after Valentines and got married. We thought about having a wedding here but decided the marriage is for us -- not the kids, not the friends, not the relatives.

  So we went away to spend a week with each other -- away from family obligations, work, computers, emails, and phones.

  The wedding was in a small chapel, with Renaissance music provided by Cerdorian, a NYC choral group. Elvis was not invited.

  Neither of us are gamblers, but Las Vegas is an interesting environmental region. We toured Yucca Mountain, the proposed nuclear repository, drove through the Valley of Fire and other interesting desert habitats. We returned to the hubub of the working world refreshed and married.

  
  
• [4] Jennifer Hickey from Manhattan, New York June 05, 2007 - 11:36AM

  I feel pressured to get married because family and society do not seem to view a relationship as "real." Like you're not an "adult" until you're married.

  
  
• [5] RGnyc from Queens June 05, 2007 - 11:37AM

  I am planning a wedding and was told off the bat from both sides of the parents that it would be 500+.

  See I'm Indian and this is apparently common. I went to a wedding in India 2 years ago that was 1500 people.

  I find that obscene. I want it to be small and tasteful and not extravagant and gawdy and I haven't had any side of the family agree. It's important to me that my friends and family be there but the wedding circus is not my thing.

  I keep getting the "We are Indian and this how it's done" line thrown at me and frankly I'm sick of it. I'm trying to convince my fiance to simply elope and force everyone to deal with it but I know our parents would be heartbroken.

  HELP!!!!

  
  
• [6] John from Manhattan June 07, 2007 - 09:44AM

  I am getting married in three weeks and my finace and I have been planning the wedding slowly and deliberately for about 1 year. We purposely thought about what the wedding meant to us from the start and kept that in mind from day one. We have included only those things that mean something to us and support the idea that the wedding is for us to express our love and devotion in front of our community of people we care about. We also kept it quite small so that those who witnessed it are truly those that we can include in our lives and be supported by.

  The ironic thing is that in order to really have the wedding you want one must most strongly rely on your own individual strength in the face of pressures from outside. We have been lucky that the pressures were rather mild, but we have constructed the wedding that most ties us to our community and families precisely by being strong-willed individuals that do not bow to family pressure!