It was great to hear about this support group. I am in another type of support group for women grieving over infertility. Very different from widowhood, yes, but still a group with a lot of pain, and wonder about the future. We usually recap about all the interventions and failures we've had, which seems to be the opposite of what Becky's group did, which was focus on the good times and what's to come.
Also age is a factor in my infertility groups, because the older women sometimes seem to resent the younger ones for having "more time", although all of us are in a similar boat - where nothing we've done has produced a baby. Our work continues!

Anyway, thanks for the inspirational talk.

Singles groups that I find always-always have age cut-offs.

If anyone has a shockingly insensitive comment like "it's better for you that your husband died when you were younger" said to her, I think she should say, "Really? Would you rather *your* husband had died sooner?"

Seems to me like rather than "would you like to go to the movies," which would presume the widow's state of mind, I'd ask "is there anything you'd like to do? have a visit? go to a movie? Give the widow an option for them to tell you what would help the state of mind they're in.

Maybe she was "literally" kicked out of the group because she doesn't speak English real good, wot? Wrie a book, go on air, run your mouth...next! LITERALLY!

Couldn't these same things be applied to going through a divorce?