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I've read the book. The approach she took is actually very traditional -- keep everything as normal as possible on the home front for your children while you wait out your husband's crisis with fingers crossed and a big bottle of Jack Daniels, as the case may be. A tale told by many if our mothers and grandmothers. Is it the right approach? I think depends on you, and who am I to judge the choice Munson made? For now, she says she's got her loving husband back, and their family intact. God bless, and I hope he keeps it together!

I just want to say that I despise flakey people who over-think relationships. Just thinking about the kinds of conversations they fill their and their children's heads with makes me cringe. If you can't have a healthy, sound relationship, then maybe you shouldn't be in one.

Having said that, congratulations for converting your psychosis into a profitable book.

Tried to quickly read her Times piece and I’m wondering: What if he said the distance he needed was a new wife or her in a box? How would she have recovered from that…. Things tend to fester before it's verbalized. Sounds like she was trying to take the high road while being condescending at the same time but bothered he didn’t wish a woman he didn’t love “happy birthday” and didn’t become affectionate again until his sister died (which once he’s over that, is he out of there).
He’s grateful for his family because he’s lost part of it and he wants to care for his children, but will he leave the moment the nest is empty???

I was really angry when I first heard about this story, but Laura has really won me over.

She sounds like she's talking from a rock-solid inner center, and I hope she has the relationship she wants.

I read this article after finding out my husband had been having an affair, and it gave me the strength to fight for myself, and for him.
We have seperated, and he is living with his girlfriend, but he has transformed the blame towards us, and his family of origin, and I have blossomed in my hopes and dreams of my life. We also have become closer-so it is with much sadness and sorrow at the ending of our marriage, but with such possibility in terms of our family and our friendship and life-partnership.
your article gave a context that is not that known in our society. I love the "I am the architect of my own happiness."

it is hard to pin down exactly why this story is so irritating. the commercialization of petty personal family issues? am i watching opra? dr phil?

Relationships are much better when you are not obsessed with "keeping the partner " trapped in this overly small and cocoon like nuclear family myth. Many Men need space to roam and Women often do as well.

Don't judge. Every marriage is different. Laura Munson did what was right for her and her family. She decided it was worth it for her to see this tough time in her marriage through. I don't know her husband, but he was very lucky to have a "rock" like her while he went off to "find himself"....it's such a tired scenario, but a universal one.

This is interesting. So what DID he end up doing for distance, if he didn't go on those trips or use a separate garage apartment?

How does her husband feel about the article being out and all of the press about his personal issues?