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O, I agree I always tell all my friends "tone" does not translate well via email/text...you always have to write something like..lol so people know when you're kidding.

I am glad to know you are serious though, it is such a shame mother's (parents) don't prepare us for this scenario.

me too. I don't like about e-mail and the Internet it is hard to know if someone is serious, but yes, I am dead serious. can't be too careful nowadays.

O, I am being so serious right now, I hope you are too.

Ladies, stop confusing controlling with caring! Stop thinking anything will change, NOT, it will only get worse.

You can spot this in the beginning of the relationship, don't get caught up, be clear, be firm, don't play games,calling acting coy, end the contact immediately.

No such thing as a "little" jealous.

Thanks for the tip, I will keep it in mind, the truth.

If you want to know what you are getting, just observe a man speaking to his mother, sisters, aunts.

Also, if he lies to any of these people, he will lie to you.

Bad boys are sexy, abusers are controlling. A woman wants a confident man and one who asks her out and takes her out, not one that worships her from a far but never says his feelings. A lot of great romances never come to light because of this. That is sad but it is the way it is.

Just as men don't want the insecure girl complaining she is fat. A confident man makes a girl feel like a queen. It is about how the other person makes you feel about yourself. It's the way it is, the confident ones go for what they want and confident doesn't mean they didn't accomplish anything. Some of my male friends the "geeks" don't brush their teeth and are too skinny, the confident ones I date are a bit more aggressive in life and go for it, they don't hesitate and back and forth, on and off and sidestep.

Domestic Violence is subtle, bad boy and abuser two different people.

Why is that the "bad boys" have the confidence when in all likelihood they will wind up as unproductive members of society? I am amazed at people who have confidence in themseleves when they have not done anything to justify that confidence.

There are a lot of men and boys that have no idea how to express their frustrations without striking out physically.

This never the woman's fault but the man/boys inablility to verbalize his feelings to the extent women and girls can.

This does not all happen to weak women/girls it happens to the STRONG, verbal female.

I love the guys that try to control women's clothes, hair and makeup.

If he puts his hands on you, kick him to the curb. They're not worth it and you have more value than to be treated badly.

Do your plays & court house informational TV shots explain that parents smacking their young kids or telling them to SHUT UP because they're yelling or misbehaving is the beginning of domestic violence. It's learned when they're young. If the parent can do it, then they can do it when they get older.

Ralph,

Half of the "nerds" don't ask the girls out and just stay as a friend. They don't have the confidence but half the times they never asked and that is why the girls never went out with them.

Is this basically the same old adage, that girls and women are attracted to "bad boys" who will treat them like dirt, while ignoring the "nerd" or the good guy who would treat them properly?

How much of this is based on the superficial way girls view men between the ages of 15-35?

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Girls often blame themselves when their boyfriends abuse them. I am curious how much this is a problem among same sex couples. Are the stats the same or higher for same sex or heterosexual teenage couples?

Good topic to raise awareness about. Does this include acquaintance rape among teens?