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I met my current gf through Nerve.com
I signed up for e-harmony but they kept giving me matches that were waaaaaayyyyy too conservative for me just based upon the profiles...strangely with seemingly very little in common....odd...not sure what they interpreted that way based upon my profile...being that I am an artist....it was quite odd..so I never followed through with it.

Nerve is much better and a much better crowd (at least for me)

I met what I thought was a wonderfule man via E-harmony. We dated and began a serious relationship and over a year later, about the time we were discussing relocating to be geographically closer and making plans to move in together, I got a call from his wife! Beware...my experience is that people are not always who they portray themselves to be and online it is much easier to create a persona that does not exist in reality.

About e-harmony according to Wikipedia:

eHarmony was founded in 2000 with $3 million of Series A funding from Fayez Sarofim & Co. and individual investors.[4] Dr. Warren, an evangelical Christian with strong ties to the conservative Christian community, attributes much of the initial success of eHarmony to its being promoted through James Dobson's Focus on the Family radio show.[5] In 2005 eHarmony sought to distance itself from Dobson and Focus on the Family, largely in an effort to broaden the market share of Warren's books and that of eHarmony according to Warren.[6] After Warren publicly distanced himself from Focus on the Family and purchased back the copyright from his earlier books from the organization, Dobson told his radio audience on May 26th, 2005, "I introduced Dr. Warren and his books — and eHarmony, more recently — to our listeners specifically because he was and it was decidedly Christian in nature," ... "Dr. Warren is anxious to change that direction. So ... we will go our separate ways ... with reluctance and regret."

in response to the woman who had a bad experience with eHarmony - it sounds creepy!!! I recommend nerve.com. I have had great experiences with people from that site and there are lots of artists and creative people there.

I have been in a few long-term relationships with people I met through nerve.com! but my current boyfriend I met at a party, not through the internet.

New York is impossible to meet people between work, a couple of nights at the gym, cooking yourself dinner, housework , plus I am an actor and busy outside of a 9-5 schedule I have many other things I do and then I want to relax on the weekend so the LAST thing I want to do in my down time is go to a bar with a bunch of other women all dressed up in hopes some wonderful man will be interested in me enought to want something more than the first thing that pops into his head. The internet affords a lot of freedom in this regard. It makes it so much easier to meet people and is kind of fun. I prefer myspace for meeting people because match sets up too much pressure and myspace is friendlier as you invite lots of people in to your life as either a friend or a dating possibility.

Terry Gross interviewed Dr. Warren, founder of E-harmony a while ago, who is publicly religious and said that he started it because he was troubled by divorce rates, and wanted to create better marriages.
The interview is here
http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=4803877

Their description says: "Warren is an Evangelical Christian with strong ties to the conservative Christian community."

I am an artist, who is super duper left politically and while I am not married or even seriously dating I have been matched with lots of people on eHarmony. I think the unmatched were simply unmatched...

I met my wife on line in 1981. It was a lift line at Hunter Mountain. Ha!!!

Check Teri Gross's interview with eharmony founder for details of relationship with James Dobson.

Here's what she was talking about

http://dir.salon.com/story/mwt/feature/2005/06/10/warren/index.html

I met my wife on Kiss/match.com in feb 2003. As she was 4 hours away, We spent a few weeks emailing and calling each other until we can meet each other.

After getting know each other over the email and phone, I rented a car and drove to Blacksburg, VA where we meet face to face. It was love at first sight. We got married in Nov 2005 and we still fell like newly weds.

We were not the type of people to cruise the bars and clubs and our jobs made it impossible to meet people easily.

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My husband and I met on Lava Life.com in 2002 and in 2003 he used the site to propose to me! He put a new profile addressed just to me . We got married in 2004.

For some reason, the people I met (and I probably dated 20 people off that site) through Nerve never really looked like their profile. They were always an inch shorter, 10 years older and (at least) 10 pounds heavier than they said on their profile. And as shallow as that sounds for me to make an issue of this -- it's dishonest to tell someone you're 30 when you're 40 and so on. It's just not the best way to make a first impression on a girl.

The Indian community has been doing this for years.

Check out indiandating.com or shaadi.com

I met my current girlfriend, my 2 ex-girlfriend, of which one of them meet her currnt husband online too. The first time we met was after a 2 week long online chating and emailing.
For me when I told my family and friend it was more of like its just you.

Isn't dating awkward in general?