Stephanie Losee and Helaine Olen, the authors of Office Mate: The Employee Handbook for Finding--and Managing--Romance on the Job (Adams Media, 2007), talk about finding and surviving that workplace relationship.
Office Mate: The Employee Handbook for Finding and Managing Romance on the Job is available for purchase at Amazon.com.
Office Mate: The Employee Handbook for Finding and Managing Romance on the Job is available for purchase at Amazon.com.
Comments [9]
I had a few office romances in the past, and I was fascinated by your guest's assertion that they often work because they usually start as friendships. In my experience this is totally true, as although you may be attracted to someone from the start, you pretty much don't end up in bed together that first night. You don't treest sexual compatibility until after some serious consideration.
The flip side however, is that you run the risk of a situation where too much of the relationship may be based on the excitement/danger of having a taboo romance itself. Once the relationship is in the open, or one of you has moved on, the foundation of the relationship is gone and you are left with two possibly very different people.
It's kind of like a relationship started on vacation - everybody is different back in their rat-race persona.
At met my wife at the office, we dated for 4 years and got married a year ago but we recently got a divorce. We are still working together! Most people at the office are wondering which one of us will quit first. We both like our jobs and we are dealing with seeing each other in the halls. So far it's been awkward but we are trying!
Dated someone in office over 6 years ago. Ended abruptly 11 months later. Did exactly as guests are describing. Kept conversations, IMs, e-mails, etc. out of the office. Appeared to be true love, as the guests say. No evidence to contrary. Though there's no contact now, six years later it still has effects. Would NEVER recommend to anyone, and if you do, leave your job.
this is the most stupid topic i have heard in a long time. these shallow cackling crackpots make me want to scream.
is this the only thing you guys could find for a friday show?
I had a friend that had an office romance. Now they are married and expecting a baby. I've also had a friend that had an office romance go sour and left her job as a result. Its really not a black and white issue.
I can't call because I'm at work right now. I'm currently getting a divorce and while going through this I started dating a woman in my office. So far its been absolutely terrific and we've tried to keep it very low key. Recently we've kind have been a little more open about the fact that we are dating just because the effort put forth in trying to hide is too tiring. We were a little scared and cautious about dating someone we work so close with, but we've found we get along so well that all that doesn't seem to be a problem. We are currently very very happy.
Don't you people go out and meet people in the real world. It seems very isolated to me. It seems like people do not want meet people that might challenge them.
I think your guests are over-simplifying something that can not be so simple, especially in a male dominated corporate environment ... Just advertising your book?
Office romances are so unfair to co-workers, annoying at best and total unfair at worst. These people should be more considerate of others!
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